Miscarriage Support

There have been times that I have found myself grieving and in need of support. Although my husband tries to comfort me. He didn’t seem to feel like I did, or he seemed like he didn’t understand completely.  In these moments I found myself getting angry or exhausted when looking for a partner in my grief. At times I could let grief consume me. I got so wrapped up in my emotions that time passed and the only thing I had accomplished is a tear stained pillow and an empty refrigerator.

Instead of filling my mind with the things I couldn’t change. I needed to try to love the ones around me. Talk with them, get to know what they are feeling and thinking in those same difficult times. There were moments I could look at my husbands face and be grateful such a man was in my life and in the same thought wonder why he wasn’t as distraught and upset as I was.

Getting to know those that surround you better, trying to understand what they are thinking and feeling, where they are coming from, can fill your mind. Learning more about those you love can alleviate some of the pain that consumes you. You will never forget the child you lost, but you can improve your life  by loving and caring about those that surround you.

My husband is a quiet man. He works hard and loves the children, but you never know what he is thinking or feeling. Sometimes, even though I try, it seems that the more I ask questions the less he talks. But I notice that when I help him prepare for the day, or make his home project easier, he seems happier, the happier he is, the more he can tell I care, the more he opens up.  Pretending  that I was feeling this grief alone was not only unfair to my husband, but unfair to myself. I am a stubborn woman, admitting to myself that in my grief I needed to do more for those around me, was very hard. But, when I was honest with myself and tried to really serve my husband and family, I found that my grief got easier each day.