Is it my fault?
Many women who have experienced a miscarriage are wracked with grief. There are always many questions that go along with this devastating experience. We ask ourselves “why did this happen?” “Am I supposed to have children?” and the most devastating of all, “Is it my fault?”
Unfortunately the female gender is very good at mastering guilt. Especially after a miscarriage, guilt is an all too common friend. The hard truth is, most miscarriages could not have been foreseen or prevented. Even more frustrating is that some miscarriages are completely unexplained. Test after test can be performed ultimately yielding no answers. There are certain habits and abuses that can greatly increase the chances of a miscarriage, but most women do not struggle with these conditions.
As you work through your grief there are many steps you can take to help you in the process. Talking about your grief and emotions can help; as can meditation or religious practices, exercising and serving others can also be useful. However, the one useless emotion when grieving is guilt. Taking the blame for your miscarriage can tear you apart. Guilt does not allow you to share your heart, serve others, and learn from your prayers or meditation. Guilt is a destructive emotion and can only prevent your heart and your relationships from healing. Please release yourself from this stronghold. It is time to take the first step to healing.
